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Jump Start # 603

 

Jump Start # 603

Ephesians 6:2 “Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with promise)”

Yesterday we gave some thoughts about moms—specifically, the difficulty that Mother’s Day brings to those whose moms have passed away or those whose moms who are less than honorable. It’s hard to honor a person who isn’t deserving, yet God wants us to step up and do the right thing and care for our parents because of the position that they are in.

Today, we look at the positive side of Mother’s Day. The honor and love we express to those moms who really tried and who made a difference. I see such moms on Sundays in church buildings. They are trying to worship God and keep their little ones quiet while everyone worships. These moms come into worship carrying diaper bags, back packs, Bibles and look as if they are off on a long journey. On many Sundays, they get bits and pieces of worship because they are answering questions of little ones, calming disputes between the little ones,  or are taking a little one out so the rest can hear. These moms often look exhausted at the end of worship and I know they often wonder what good it’s doing, for either the child or for her. Yet they come. Every week. That little child grows. Before long, he’s singing the songs the adults are. As he continues to grow, he pays attention to what’s going on, he listens, he learns. In time, he obeys Jesus and becomes a Christian. The heart of mom swells as she witnesses this. That little boy has grown into a fine young man who has developed his own faith in Jesus Christ. As he continues to grow he leads the congregation in singing on Sunday evening. He teaches a class. One day he stands before the congregation and preaches a sermon. So many of us today have a similar story.  We were not raised in the church, we were brought up in Jesus. We started off with such a huge advantage over other kids who never had this regular spiritual influence. Ours wasn’t just at the church building, but it began at home. Our moms made us behave. We had rules and curfews. We had to watch our words and our attitudes. When they were wrong, we got it. We had to share with our brothers and sisters. We had to clean our rooms, eat meals with the entire family, do things as a family and even say prayers. Our moms made sure that our Bible lessons were completed. They wanted to know details about who our friends were and they wouldn’t let us date just anyone nor at the age we thought we ought to.

Our moms were in our lives. Sometimes, often, we rejected that. We wanted to be like the other kids who didn’t have moms like that. They had freedoms. They could say the words we weren’t allowed to. They were the ones who were smoking in middle school. They were the ones who were tasting beer before high school. These are the ones who experimented with drugs and had sexual relations during high school We wanted to be like them. Some of us, joined them. It broke our mom’s heart. We rebelled. We fought her ways. We longed for that far country.

Many of us now are raising our own kids. We have settled into parenthood and now see that our moms kept us from many dangers, hurts and above all introduced us to the goodness of our Savior, Jesus Christ. We were raised where many things were already settled. We knew where we were going to be every Sunday—at church. We knew that certain things were already settled. We were expected to behave—everywhere and at all times. When we didn’t, we got it. Our moms spanked. Our moms preached. Our moms fussed at us. Our moms were molding us and we didn’t even realize it. She kept us from being arrested. She kept us from being kicked out of school. She kept us out of life long addictions. She kept us from running away from responsibilities. She made us apologize when we did something wrong. How embarrassing that was. She fussed at the music we listened to, the clothes that we wore and how late we stayed up.

Most of us remember that. And today, thanks to our loving Savior, and the good work of our moms, we are decent citizens who hold responsible jobs who are making a difference in the community. We don’t walk down the city streets burning things in anger. We don’t sleep on park benches nor expect a free ride. Our moms taught us hard work. Today, we are raising our families. Today we are active in God’s kingdom. Many of us are preaching, shepherding, teaching Bible classes and teaching our friends about Jesus. We can be counted upon in a crisis. We are there for others. We serve. We devote time and energy to others. We are what we are because of Jesus and the influence of our moms. Without those influences, most of us would be a wreck today.

For our moms who are senior citizens now, thank you. Those words do not seem enough for all that you have done. Your work was well done. You made us, shaped us and hopefully we can do a job as well as you did.

For the moms who are in the midst of raising children now, hang in there. It’s more than food and laundry and making beds, it shaping character, it’s molding attitudes, it’s shaping hearts, it’s influencing for good. The kids may fight you about the rules, don’t give in. They may want to be like other kids, don’t let them. Someday, they will thank you. It may take a long time, but they will.

I have been asked more than once if anyone in my family preached before me. My answer is my Mom did. She was always preaching to me. I didn’t like some of the lessons. I didn’t want to hear it many times. But today I am so thankful she did. She knew. She tried. She had help from God.

Thanks, Mom.

Roger

 

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Jump Start # 602

 

Jump Start # 602

Ephesians 6:2 “Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with promise)”

Sunday is Mother’s Day. It is a time that kids draw home made cards, make a breakfast for Mom and try to give her the day off. It usually ends up giving her a greater mess that she has to clean up later, which somehow she doesn’t mind doing. I thought I’d take a couple of our Jump Starts and talk about Mom.

Our verse today shows us that God is pro-family. It is God who designed, defined and established what a family unit is. When Jesus came to earth, He came into a family. Within the Ten Commandments, immediately following the laws about God, came honoring your father and mother. Liberal, secular society has attempted to redefine the family unit. The aggressive homosexual agenda would want us to believe that what two men offer or what two women offer is just as good as what God designed. WRONG. First, we are not in the position of defining what God has set. It’s already done. I can go through life saying that 2 + 2 = 5, but I’m wrong. I can redefine colors, directions or words. I can be different. But at the end of the day, I look dumb. 2 + 2 will never be five. Never. I can say two men are married or a man and his dog are married or that I came from aliens or any other weird idea, but at the end of the day, I’m wrong. God has determined what a family is. Accept it or reject it, but you cannot change it. Secondly, we cannot improve upon what God has made. God does everything best the first time around. These strong agendas are nothing more than Satan’s gospel being accepted by those who do not know God. Satan wants to destroy the family and he’ll find those who will dance to his music.

Moms– they come in all sizes. We don’t get to pick our moms, maybe that’s good and maybe that isn’t. Mother’s Day for many isn’t a happy day. It’s a hard day for them.

First, there are those whose moms have passed away. The first mother day without mom is hard. My mom has been gone for a long time. She passed away at the age of 67, which is not that old, and is not all that far from me now. A lot has happened within my family since mom died. Two of my children have gotten married, another one will next year. We have a grandchild on the way. One of my sons preaches and he and I held our first joint gospel meeting a few weeks ago. Life moves on. Things happen. There has been many occasions that I wish I could have shared things with her. I know several folks whose moms have passed away recently. This day is hard. It’s hard to see others with their moms, and you can’t be with yours. It’s hard because you still want her to be around. In some ways a person may feel cheated. They may even get angry.

Second, there are those whose moms didn’t “mom” very well. They may have had issues, addictions, anger or sinful behavior that made growing up a real challenge. You mom may still be alive, but there are issues and differences. Maybe she has not accepted Jesus. Maybe she has left Jesus. The thoughts of our verse tug on your heart. You need to honor her, but it’s hard. She makes it hard. She loves to give guilt. She loves to play the victim. She loves to control your life and make it more stressful than what it is. It is hard being around her.

God’s words to us are not always easy. Honoring your parents is not qualified. He does not say, “Honor them if they are Christians.” Nor does it say, “honor them if they are honorable.” What about those who are not Christians? Honor them. What about those who are not honorable? Honor them. Just as David respected the office that King Saul held and understood that Saul was appointed by God, even though Saul was nearly crazy and was attempting to kill David, the position demanded honor and respect. David would not lift his hand against Saul. May we learn from that ourselves.

As our parents age, honor shifts from listening and loving and respecting them to actually taking care of them. There comes a time in their later years that they need the help of their grown children. This can become especially hard. Some have had to take the car keys away from aging parents. It was for their own safety. That’s hard and often comes with a battle. Some have had to make the difficult choice of finding an assisted living or a nursing home for their parents. The physical and medical attention that they need requires this decision. It’s hard. You feel in some ways that you are neglecting them or are abandoning them, but you’re not. You know deep inside that this is the best choice. Remember, even on the cross, Jesus told John, “Behold, your mother.” Jesus was taking care of His mother, even after He was gone. That job fell to the oldest son and Jesus was “honoring her” by doing this.

Tomorrow, I will write about the pleasant side of Mother’s Day. It is important for us to realize that many people have a hard time on Mother’s Day. Say a prayer for them. The Lord will help them, us, as He always does. Learn. Be the parent that you ought to be. Dump the baggage that you’ve been carrying all these years. Build strong relationships with your children. Walk with the Lord. Be an example for your children. Remember, the torch passes to us and from us to our children. Glorify God in all that you do.

Roger