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Jump Start # 2195

Jump Start # 2195

Acts 28:7 “Now in the neighborhood of that place were lands belonging to the leading man of the island, named Publius, who welcomed us and entertained us three days.”

Our verse today comes from the last page of Acts. Paul, as a prisoner, is on a journey to Rome. He is to stand before Caesar. The Jews had beaten Paul, and arrested him. Had he not declared his desire to be tried by Caesar, he likely would have died in Jerusalem. So, aboard a ship he travels. The journey was full of trouble. The ship encountered a violent storm and capsized. Paul had to swim to safety. They made it to the island of Malta, where our verse takes place. While there, Paul is bitten by a poisonous snake but no harm comes to him. He will spend three months on this island before continuing on to Rome where he will be in prison and eventually executed.

But while on Malta, Paul meets Publius, a kind and generous man who welcomed them and entertained them for several days. Paul was not treated as a prisoner. He found rest for his body and nourishment for his soul. We are not told if Publius ever became a Christian. It’s hard to imagine being in the presence of Paul for any length of time and that subject not coming up.

I find it interesting that Publius gets one sentence in the Bible. The Holy Spirit wanted us to know about this kind and generous person who helped Paul. There are lessons to be seen here.

First, people who are not Christians can be nice and generous. Those qualities do not belong exclusively to Christians. It is a false generalization to assume that everyone who is not a Christian is selfish, stingy, greedy and anti-Christ. Sometimes, people in the world do a better job of showing kindness than the Christians do. I’ve heard the sad stories of people saying that neighbors brought food, but no one from the church did. Or, neighbors offered rides to the doctors office, or came and did yard work, and people in the church never called. That happens. Be careful of painting the picture that people in the world are evil and wicked. Publius certainly seems to be a pretty nice person.

Second, do not turn away the generosity of others, even if they are not Christians. There are two sides to generosity, the ones that give and the ones that receive. There are two sides to hospitality, the one that gives and the one that receives. There are two sides of kindness, the one that gives and the one that receives. Accept gifts with thankfulness. There are those who want to do things, but if we always refuse then they do not get an opportunity to serve. Sometimes our pride is just a bit too much and rather than ask for help, we struggle on our own. As a preacher, I’ve visited hospitals a zillion times. I think nothing about it. However, there was one occasion several years ago when I was the guy in the hospital bed. People came to see me. I didn’t like that. It was very awkward for me to have people coming to cheer me up and to see how I was doing. But I learned a lesson from that. It’s important to receive as it is to give.

Paul did not refuse the generosity of Publius. Wet, tired, bitten by a snake, Paul certainly needed some comfort. He easily could have said, “I don’t know you,” or, “I’ll be fine.” Instead, he allowed Publius to help Paul. Publius was the giver and Paul was the receiver. And, in that setting, evangelism and sharing the Gospel can take place. I’ve known folks lying in a hospital bed who have shared the Gospel with nurses and doctors. After a fender bender and names and insurance information has been exchanged, I’ve known some who used the occasion to invite others to services.

A child in the congregation draws you a picture. Make a big deal about it. They were thinking of you. Someone offers to bring some food, thank them and allow them. We can only serve if someone is willing to accept what we are doing.

Third, Publius welcomed Paul for three days. That wasn’t very long. But for three days, Paul was loved and accepted. Shouldn’t this be the motto of our congregations. We welcome you. Some may come like Paul, shipwrecked, wet and bitten by the serpent. They may smell like the world, or in Paul’s case, like the sea. They may look rough. They may not be able to offer much. Yet, Publius welcomed Paul. We need to open the doors to welcome the lost. The woman who is covered with tattoos ought to be able to come into our assemblies and worship without going through a crowd of stares and whispers. The guy who looks homeless, and maybe he is, ought to be allowed to worship. Jesus didn’t run off the woman at the well who had been married multiple times and currently was living with someone. She fits in our times exactly. Not everyone will be the nice, neat, educated Nicodemus. Some are spiritual shipwrecks. Some have messy lives. Yet, if they are seeking, should we not welcome them and help them spiritually the best that we can.

Fourth, Publius was with Paul for three days. That’s not very long. But those three days not only made a difference, it was noted by God and recorded by the Holy Spirit. We all have life long friends, dear, dear people in our lives that mean so much to us. But I wonder about the Publius’ in our lives. There for just a short time. Maybe the family that worships only a few months and then job transfers take them far away. Yet, for that short time, they left an impression. Their smiles. Their kindness. Their love for the Lord. I expect all of us have those memories of people that intersected with our lives for just a short time. Years later, we may even have a hard time remembering their names, but we remember the gift, the kindness, their passion for the Lord. I remember a young man like this. Boy, he could lead singing like no one else. He always smiled so big. He took my family out to eat when we had just moved to a new place. But in no time he moved on. But, like Publius, he left an impression upon our hearts and my kids still fondly remember him. Be thankful for such people. They often do more and leave a greater impression than some folks who have been around since Moses. And, then, you may stand in the shadows of Publius, yourself some day. Do what you can for others. You may not see them again, but you can welcome, comfort and help, even for a short time.

The welcoming Publius. The one sentence man in the Bible. The one who made a difference for Paul. You won’t hear many sermons about Publius. But for a brief moment in time, he was one who made a difference.

Roger

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Jump Start # 2194

Jump Start # 2194

Acts 14:23 “And when they had appointed elders for them in every church, having prayed with fasting, they commended them to the Lord in whom they had believed.”

Appointing elders, here from our passage, seemingly done quickly in these young congregations. It also seems that every church had them. This verse is raised up as a standard but for far too many congregations, decades, even generations, pass without having shepherds to lead and guide the people of God.

Let’s give some thought to this:

First, it may be the way we go about appointing men to be elders. Did you watch any of the Brett Kavanaugh meeting before the Senate judiciary committee last week? It was heated and harsh. One would think finding someone who was gifted enough and willing enough to serve on the Supreme Court would be a highlight of our country’s history. But instead of a joyous moment, tempers flared, fingers were pointed and motives were questioned. It was ugly. As I watch some of that, it reminded me of what some congregations go through with the appointment of elders. Instead of being one of the joyous highpoints of a congregation, it also, turns ugly with finger pointing, motives questioned and tempers flaring. I’m known people to leave and never come back. I’ve heard of congregations splitting during the process of appointing elders.

Some of this may come from a total misunderstanding of what shepherds do. They do not “run” the church. They oversee people. Those that view the eldership as a climb to the top, as the church’s CEO, do not understand the work and the nature of shepherding. They do not control the money, decide about the building and run deacons as managers who report to them. They oversee people. The people are not the parking lot, the copy machines nor the carpet. The people are the church. Not getting this, some wrongly view the eldership as a “promotion,” and a position of telling people what to do, rather than showing them by their example and helping them get closer to the Lord. Shepherding is a people business. It’s about leading, showing, teaching and helping God’s people.

With this, not only are unqualified people pushed to become elders, men who are not leaders, and men who do not know the word of God, but the appointing process begins with the idea of looking for something wrong in a person’s life. We turn critical, reaching back for decades and hanging on to rumors to keep a man from becoming a shepherd. Too often, we expect perfection. It is amazingly inconsistent to have fellowship with a man for years and years, to allow him to pray for the congregation, teach class and be active, but when his name is suggested as an elder, then all of a sudden all this dirt, mud and ugliness about his character comes out. Why is it ok to fellowship that and tolerate that as long as he is not an elder? Most inconsistent. Some how we have within us the thought that with every name presented to be an elder, we must look and look for something wrong with that man. We dig until we can find something, anything. Could it be that we are starting on the wrong foot? Could it be that we ought to rejoice that some among us are willing to serve and lead us to Heaven? Instead of looking for what is wrong, consider what we have been fellowshipping and what we know. If an man’s character is such that he cannot be an elder, possibly we ought to ask “why are we fellowshipping him?” The problem may not be in the man, but in us.

Second, having witnessed the ugly side of appointing elders in the past, some who probably would be wonderful shepherds, do not have the nerve to go through all that ugliness. I wonder if we have just done that to our country with Kavanaugh. Why would someone want, especially the media, to go through old high school year books and find what you wrote decades ago. There may be many judges after this who will be content to stay where they are and not put their lives through all of this intense ugliness. They may feel that it’s not worth it. And, I wonder if in some places we have done the same thing with future elders. They have seen what happened to others, and they want no part of that. Shame on us for leaving that impression upon others. In many ways it has crippled congregations for years.

Third, there certainly seems to have been a quick desire upon these men in Acts 14 to serve as elders. Two verses before, Paul is returning to Lystra, Iconium and to Antioch. They had just been to those cities for the first time in chapter 13. Now certainly some time had passed, maybe five years. And certainly the Holy Spirit was helping those new congregations, but still, there were men who were qualified, willing and able to serve. Today, someone’s name is mentioned about being a possible elder and immediately someone says, “well, they haven’t been here very long.” The very long, is five to six years. How long did it take in Acts 14? The spirit of those early churches was driven by men and women who put Christ before all things. Today, it’s the demands of work come before leading the people of God. Today, it’s the family needs to grow and move out before one will think about it. Today, as soon as a man is in position with work and family, he decides that he wants to travel and won’t be here much. One spirit that seems missing today is the willingness to put the kingdom first, before work, pleasure, and family. We are content to let others do what we could. Some of this is cultural. There was a huge shift in patriotic thinking between W.W. II and Vietnam. In W.W. II, young men, like my dad, still in high school, couldn’t wait to get out and enlist. They wanted to do their part. By the time Vietnam came, many did everything they could to avoid going. That cultural shift had many reasons, but it filters into the church as well. Instead of devoting lives to helping the kingdom, even having the spirit of Isaiah who said, “Here am I, send me,” many ask, “Why should I?” And this, “Why should I?” attitude is why every quarter, congregations beg for people to step up and teach Bible classes. It’s why some have given up on VBS and other things because no one wants to help out. So, this is much larger than being an elder, it has to do with discipleship, stewardship and being will to give my all to the King who gave His all.

Our verse states that every church had elders. Can you imagine that in this country. Every congregation, led by men who love the Lord and love the people. Every congregation having visionary men who are devoting their lives to helping the people of God. Every congregation having wisdom and love at the helm.

And, for those congregations that currently are blessed to have godly men leading them, who will take their place? What’s the legacy? What thought has been put into finding the next round and mentoring those men so when the time comes they are ready to serve.

Maybe more teaching needs to be done about shepherding and the attitudes of a congregation rather than just running through the qualifications found in Timothy and thinking that’s enough. Maybe we ought to see what’s happening in Washington and ask, why do we find a similar process in our congregations? Maybe we ought to ask the Lord to help us, change us and shape us to what we need to be.

Every church—every church had elders. What an amazing thought!

Roger

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Jump Start # 2193

Jump Start # 2193

Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

Our verse today identifies one of the reasons God created Eve. Adam was alone. Adam needed a companion that was suitable or corresponded to him. A dog is nice. You can take a walk with a dog, pet a dog but a dog can’t talk to you. A dog is always a dog and doesn’t understand what it is like to be a human. Friends are nice and necessary. However, God didn’t created a buddy for Adam. The suitable one was a woman. She is like him but she is not like him.

The woman was to be the helper, or help-mate for man. I never thought that God gave Adam someone who could simply help him pick green beans. There was more to it than have an extra pair of hands to get the work done. The woman helped the man emotionally and spiritually. She brings a perspective and an insight that helps him.

Here’s an example. My wife ran into an older lady that we knew years ago. I hadn’t seen this woman in a long time. As they talked, this older person made the comment that I had put on weight. If you knew me when I was first married, I was a bean pole. Skinny doesn’t begin to define how I was. I need a rock in my pocket on a windy day to keep from blowing away. So, yes, since then, I have put on weight. But the way she said it and of all the things she could have said, why this? She didn’t say anything about my preaching, the global work that is being done, my writing, the grandkids, no it had to be that I was getting fat. So, when my sweet wife told that to me, thinking it would be funny, I was ready to launch a counter attack. I said, “I hope I see that old woman soon because I have a few things I want to tell her.” My wife said, “No, you won’t.” Then I began to rehearse what I would tell her. “First of all, you’ve gotten older, but you never have gotten any nicer.” My wife said, “No, you won’t say that.” “Second,” I proceeded, “you need to look in the mirror and see how old and ugly you’ve become.” My wife said, “No, you won’t.” “Third,” I said. About that time, my wife said, “No, you won’t. You’ll be your nice, kind way that you are around people.” Smoke still coming out of my ears, I realized she was right. She had helped me.

Men can be aggressive without thinking. We can want to settle the score without thinking about the consequences or our influence. The woman, our wives, can tone us down. They can help us see the bigger picture. They can soften and temper us and keep us from becoming a fool by saying something that we would only later regret. We need this. This may be one reason why God created woman, to help the man. Aside from the physical relationship, a woman helps calm the man down. She helps him curb his anger, hold his tongue and see clearly when he is ready to go tell his boss a few things or go across the street and tell his neighbor a few things. She helps him.

Now, from all of this, two obvious thoughts arise:

First, the woman, the wife, must know her man. She must know how he is wired and how she can help him be a better man. She is not sitting back, quiet, allowing him to run off his mouth and embarrass the entire family and ruin his reputation. She, because she knows him and loves him, is going to help filter, temper and direct him. One of our greatest spiritual tools is our spouse, if they are walking with the Lord. We can get upset. We can decide that we are going to tell others how we feel. But without any restraints, guidance or help, we can certainly make things much worse. Our over-the-top attitudes and harsh words can ruin relationships and counter any good that we are trying to do. This is why you find behind most successful Christians, a spouse who has been there all along to help the other.

Wives need to do that. Help your man from doing something that he would later regret. Talk him through things and get him to see things that he can’t. Often, like a bull that sees red, when angry, we only see our side of things and we feel compelled to blast away. Calm him down by reminding him of things he has forgotten in the moment of being upset. Encourage him to do right. Help him. You are his helper and he needs you.

Second, men, we need to listen to the help God has given us. Measure it with truth. We remember Job’s wife. Her advise wasn’t helpful. She had thrown in the towel and had given up. Satan got to her. But that’s not always the case. Often, our wives are right. Often, they remind us of little ears that may be listening or our influence among others or our roles that we play. God has given us help, but do we use that help? Do we ignore it because we are going to do what we are going to do? Do we intimidate our wife in such a way that she is afraid to say anything when we actually need it? Helping our attitudes, keeping our perspective, keeping us going is one of the wonderful things our wives provide for us. Do we listen? Do we welcome that help? Do we even realize that we need any help? Male egos can take us to dangerous places. I think especially of the wonderful role that the preacher’s wife plays. Behind the scenes, so few ever know how she has helped her preacher man. He gets fired up and is going to let the congregation have it. In the spirit of Luther, he’s ready to nail his complaints on the front door of the church building. He’s going to tell them things that they needed to hear years ago. Walking around the house, with his finger pointing in the air, the preacher rehearses his fiery declarations that he plans to deliver on Sunday. His good wife hears this and although she agrees with the what he sees, she knows his approach is way over the top. So, she talks him down off the edge, helps him to come up with some positive solutions and in turn, not only keeps him from getting fired on the spot, but keeps the church from dividing and things becoming worse. She has helped him. She has played the role that God created her for. She has helped him and no one else ever knew.

God created a helper suitable for Adam. In a wonderful relationship, husbands and wives help each other spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Helping. Helping make things better. Helping, as God would want.

Roger