Jump Start # 4171
Psalms 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is For brothers to dwell together in unity!
This past Saturday it was off to the concert once again for us. Heard a Beethoven piece and a Stravinsky piece that was really loud and very odd in my book. What was special about this concert was that we were not in Louisville. We’ve been going to classical concerts for more than a decade in Louisville. Now we have moved. It was the Indianapolis Orchestra that we watched. A different venue. Musicians that we do not know. Some had instruments that we had never seen before. Parking was different for us.
And, all of this presents a powerful lesson about different cultures or norms. We first experience this in marriage. Like two rivers blending together, each person brings in ideas and what was normal for them. Take for instance the opening of Christmas presents. In some families, all the presents are opened at once. The wrapping paper flies through the air and it’s like hogs going to the feeding trough. In other families, one present is opened at a time and everyone watches that person open it. Different ways of doing things. Different cultures. Is one better than the other? The way we were raised always seemed the best to us.
The same happens when a person switches congregations. They move to a new city. Different people. Different order of worship. Different schedule. I’ve experienced that in leaving Charlestown Road after eighteen years. I was very comfortable with the way things were done. I’m now a part of a congregation that does things differently. Not, unbiblical nor wrong, just different time of day when Bible classes are offered. Different way of doing Lord’s Supper.
Here are some lessons I learned:
First, give the new way a solid chance. The auditorium that the Indianapolis Orchestra played in is much fancier and nicer than where the Louisville Orchestra played. Parking was more expensive in Indy and we had to walk a bit. If we go into a new culture with our minds made up that we don’t like it, there is a good chance that we won’t like it. Church buildings are different. Preachers have different styles. Elderships operate differently. Give the new place a chance.
Second, don’t make the mistake of trying to turn the new place into the place you just left. That most often fails. People, situations and resources are different. If a congregation has Sunday Bible classes in the evening rather than the morning, learn to adjust, live with it, or find a place that is more to your liking. But, do not go in with an agenda to turn things upside down and change them. If you keep talking about the church you just left and how they did things you might find people wishing you’d go back there. What works in one place doesn’t always work in another place.
Third, as long as a congregation is following the Lord’s way, I must learn to be subject and bend my will for the sake of the group. Expecting everyone to cater to my likes and my wants sure sounds pretty selfish. And, if everyone acted that way, the congregation would splinter into a dozen pieces, as some have. Be a team player. You may share ideas that the new group hasn’t thought of, but don’t get upset if they pass on your idea.
Being flexible, patient and willing to find your place in the kingdom is what you do. My first Sunday at my new congregation, I was asked to be part of a weekly podcast, teach half of next year and put on the schedule to do other things.
Moving through different cultures and norms is really a part of life. We experienced that when we moved from grade school to middle school to high school to college. Each of those were different. We experience this when our children marry and new faces become a part of the family.
It is good to visit other places. Learn ideas. See how they do things. Share those ideas with others.
If I were asked which is better, Louisville Orchestra or Indianapolis, my answer would be both. They are different. They play amazingly. And, I can enjoy them without feeling that one has to change and be like the other.
A lot of headaches in a congregation could be prevented if we understood this Biblically and spiritually.
Roger
