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Jump Start # 3283

Jump Start # 3283

Ephesians 4:25 “Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.”

Sin comes in many forms. Sin can be an action or behavior, such as drunkenness. Sin can be an attitude, such as hatred. Sin can be mental, such as lust. The outside of a person can look good, while the inside is a real mess. This is how Jesus pictured some of the Pharisees. They were like a cup that was washed on the outside, but the inside was unclean. They were like a white tombstone but on the inside they were rotten.

Sin comes with consequences. Some will see our sin. Some may never know our sin. I was talking with someone the other day about our first sin. We remember a lot of firsts. The first kiss. The first car. The first homerun. The first sermon. But what about the first sin? I have no statistical proof. I’ve seen no surveys on this. But, simply knowing people and knowing myself, I wonder if our first sin was telling a lie. And, likely, we told it to the people who loved us the most, our parents.

Telling a lie is so easy. And, once one has gotten good at it, it’s the default mode when one looks for an excuse, an alibi, a coverup or simply because they don’t want to face the truth. I wish I could say that I have never lied before, but that would be a lie. I try very hard these days to be honest and truthful, even if it gets me in trouble and even if it hurts.

Here are some truths about lying:

First, lying is against the nature of God. God is holy. In God, there is no darkness. Seeking the righteous of God, as Jesus tells us to in the great sermon, will move us to being honest. The more we are around the world, the more we are lied to and the more easily it is for us to lie. God keeps His word. God is faithful. God remembers His promises.

Second, lying is very addictive. Once one starts down that path, it’s easier and easier to lie all the time. According to a study conducted at Notre Dame, the average person lies 1.65 times a day. I’m not sure what the .65 means? Half lies? Partial lies? Little white lies?  One lie a day doesn’t seem so bad. However in a given week that average person will tell 11 lies. In a year that comes to 602 lies. And in twenty-five years, that comes to 15,000 lies. Now, that really looks bad. That’s a lot of lying. And, some lie more than one time a day. It is so easy to tell a lie.

Third, lying is progressive. One must have a good memory when he tells lies. Sooner or later what he said will come back and haunt him. A person tells one lie to escape trouble. Then he must tell lie number two to cover lie number one. Then lie number three to cover lie number two, which covers lie number one. And, before long a person starts believing his lies and he doesn’t know what the truth is.

It seems to me that one of the real dangers of lies is that we begin to believe them ourselves. History is rewritten in our favor. This quickly moves into deceiving ourselves. Truth and lying between so mixed up in our minds that we are not sure what is true and what is a lie.

Fourth, lying crushes our credibility with others and ruins our soul with God. Lying isn’t ok. When one is known to be a liar, it is hard for people to trust him. But God knows. God knows how we are. There are certain professions that have a bad reputation because of lying. People are skeptical. People do not want to believe. People do not trust. That’s what lying will do. In a marriage, where our relationship is built upon trust, lying knocks the legs out of that foundation. In our fellowship, where honesty and trust are the fundamental values, lying destroys it. And, in our walk with God, words such as “do not be deceived,” reminds us that our dishonesty can ruin our soul.

The average person tells 15,000 lies in twenty-five years. It is such an easy trap to fall into. And, one area that we so innocently fall in are the hymns we sing. Lying in church— who would have thought! We sing, “Oh, how I love Jesus,” but we treat the Lord more like a casual friend. “Bless be the tie that binds our hearts,” yet we avoid certain people after services because we don’t like them. Are we singing the truth? Are we doing what we are singing?

Or, the person that sits through the sermon with his eyes closed and then boasts on the way out, “You did a good job today, preacher. I liked that sermon.” One of these days, I just might ask someone like that, which point was better the fourth or the final point? When he says “the fourth, for sure,” I’ll smile and tell him that there were only three points!

Pure lips come from an honest heart. Being true is hard in a false world. We see on the news, that even under oath, some lie. We must be different. We must be known for our word. Let your yes be yes and your no be no, said our Lord. Our words are a reflection of our character.

Speak the truth, is what our verse today says. That’s what we must do!

Roger

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Jump Start # 520

Jump Start # 520 

Ephesians 4:25 “Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.”

  Honesty—it is the foundation stone of all relationships. God hates lying. He said that in Proverbs six. One of the 10 commandments condemned false witnesses. The lack of trust has made society sign papers for nearly every transactions and back those papers up with a battery of attorneys. Honesty is the key. It is one of the core values of being a Christian.

  Lying began in the garden when the serpent told Eve that she would not die if she ate the forbidden fruit. Lying is one of the easiest and earliest sins we learn. People lie to avoid trouble—first to their parents, then to teachers, then to the police, then to their bosses, then to their mates. And generally, all along, they have been lying to God and themselves.

  Telling the truth can hurt. It can get folks mad at you, and so, it is just easier to lie. It’s easier to tell a lie than to commit to something that we don’t want to do. For instance, telling someone, “I’m busy,” gets you out of something you really don’t want to do. The truth may be that you are not busy, you just don’t want to do it. A lot of folks have found that it’s easy to say that they are sick, when they are not, just to get a day off of work or to skip school. Later that morning they are at the mall shopping and eating with the best of them, having a great time, thinking nothing of what they have done. Horror strikes them when they happen to run into someone who has been told that they were sick. Now the person has to think of a fast one, which often is another lie, to cover their tracks. Living on deceit and dishonesty becomes a way of life for them.

  Relationships that are built upon lies will someday crumble and crash. The truth has a way of coming to the surface. Often more lies have to be told to hide the earlier lies and after that more lies to hide those recent lies. There can be so many lies that a person just doesn’t know what the is the truth. Some folks are professionals at lying. They can look you right in the eye and tell you a lie. Others can shed tears, and you think this is for real, but you find out it’s not.

  The apostles words from our verse today, “Lay aside falsehood, speak the truth…” Jesus said, “let your yes be yes and your no be no.” Don’t say yes when you mean no. Be honest. Be truthful.

  One thing about lying that is almost universal and that is most people hate being lied to. They don’t have a problem lying to others, they have their reasons, but when someone lies to them, they get upset and vocal. Amazing to me that they don’t see the inconsistency in all of that.

  How does one be honest? The simplest way is to just do it. Tell the truth. Be honest. Honest about your feelings. Honest about what the job is about. Honest about the item being sold. Honest with God.

  Being honest may cause you to lose a few bucks. It may cost you a job. Being honest may take a while to fill a position. Honesty may open some doors that you don’t like. It may show that you are not the hotshot that everyone thinks you are. It may reveal that you, yes you, need a lot of spiritual help. Being honest, especially with God, may reveal that you’ve played church far too long and that you have a shallow relationship with Him.

  Being honest often is the pathway to better relationships and the improvements necessary for positive change. Remember Jesus’ story about the two men who went to pray in the temple (Luke 18)? The publican beat his chest, wouldn’t look Heavenward, and begged God to have mercy on him. The Pharisee, bragged and bragged about all the great things he had done and how he was so different for everyone else, especially the publican who was praying near him. He was lying to God and to himself. Had he been honest, like the other man, he would have asked for mercy as well. Being honest will take us to the Bible. It will cause us to drop to our knees in prayer. It will make us go across the street and apologize. It will lead us to have true connections and real relationships. We sometimes, maybe most times, do not like to hear negative things about ourselves. We like praise, compliments, and honors. Proverbs tells us that the wounds of a friend are better than the kisses of an enemy.

  I believe this is one of the reasons, not the only reason, that God established the church. We need each other. We need honest fellowship, connections, and accountability. I need the wounds of a friend, even though it’s painful to hear. I need people to be honest. That is the means for us to improve. We often don’t see it in ourselves. It is like bad breathe. Usually the guy that has it doesn’t realize it but everyone else does! We need others to help us, be honest with us, and to be patient with us.

  Speak the truth each one of you…it may be hard, but give it a try today. All day long. On the phone…in meetings…with co-workers…in emails…on facebook…with the kids…with your mate…with brethren…and with God. One day—tell the truth all day long. Piece of cake for many of our readers because you already do it. For others, this will be a challenge. You may stop yourself mid-sentence and change what you were going to say. I need to be honest. It has to start some time, it might as well be today.

  If you missed it a time or two, tell God about it. He already knows. Ask Him to help you and to be patient with you. Then go back in and engage in life and do it with honest lips, honest hearts and honest motives.

  Roger